Family does not mean: keeping secrets, walking on eggshells, lying to keep the peace, pretending others are healthy when they are not, tiptoeing around the truth, attending events that derail myu healing process, defending poor choices, engaging in toxic behavior, remaning loyal to destructive patterns, or sacrificing my needs in an attempt to fix or save others.
We have to do the best we are capable of. This is our sacred human responsibility.
We don't always need to agree with one another. But we should try our best to behave with respect for one another.